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Attracted to work colleagues but not after a date
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I've never asked out a woman at work, in keeping with many workplaces as sexual relationships formed there can be tricky. Saying that, I meet nice young females amongst staff at the school where I have a job. Do other posters flirt, talk and have a few fantasies regarding people they meet week to week where they are employed?
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Fancying work colleagues is pretty common. Let’s face it, working life can be pretty dull and an office/work crush is a harmless way of passing the time. Whether or not you act on your feelings though is up to the individual. According to some statistics, around 20% of couples met at work! So don’t necessarily discount the possibility of a work-relationship becoming something special if you’ve met someone you really like.
This TheSite article may give you some food for thought...
Screwing the crew
Holly
seconded
I've fancied a fair few (straight) colleagues in the past. Never asked any out... Obviously.
Sorry, that wasn't much help...
If you are on the same level 'authority-wise' though, don't worry about it as long as its subtle and fun. It's better to get on with your workmates well and have everyone enjoy going to work than it is to always be 100% professional and formal.
I've never asked anyone out from various jobs however, it would feel awkward. Fantasies, of course, I'm a guy, and most guys single or married will probably have the occasional fantasy about their female colleagues. Women are probably the same with their male colleagues. Fantasies are just that though.
I have to disagree, you can tell your boss to back off if you are uncomfortable with what is being said/done. If they keep doing it, you have the harassment law(?) which protects you. You should always be in control about that sort of thing.
You are right 100% you can legally tell your boss or make a complaint. But there would be an unspoken social pressure in that situation that to not be a 'prudish little bitch' or something. That's unfair which is why flirting between different levels of authority should be kept to a minimum. You might feel like complaining would give you a bad reputation as someone who didn't want to get on with anyone, or be passed over for promotion.
wear trousers only
yeah, take the boss to tribunal and sue him for work harassment
end of day one can spend 35-40 hours every week with work colleagues- emotions of all sorts flare and wane
good bosses stay at emotional distance to staff under him- professionalism and aware of strict limits of private feelinds